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Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 6:43 pm
Welcome to our online support chat. Please feel free to begin sharing your story of pet caregiving or loss. We are here for you. You are not alone. Welcome….

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 6:59 pm
Good evening to all.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:00 pm
Hi Judy and welcome. How is precious Abby doing?

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:00 pm
good evening to to all

Guest_771

January 27, 2016 – 7:01 pm
Denise

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:01 pm
Hi Kathryn. She is doing pretty well. Her vet is giving her sub-q fluids three times weekly, she eats when she wants (occasionally) and we are doing well managing her incontinence. I am grateful for every day.

Guest_771

January 27, 2016 – 7:01 pm
Hello

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:02 pm
Bless her, Judy!

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:02 pm
She used to love jumping through a hoop. While she is now totally deaf, she is learning to jump once or twice with hand signals.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:03 pm
Oh Judy that’s such good news. So glad for you both! So she’s learning sign for jumping? Amazing.

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:03 pm
wow, that’s great. good for her!

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:04 pm
Yes, it’s amazing as she has had no interest in playing or doing much. I also mailed a thank you note and enclosed a photo of sweet Bailey to the two women who picked him up near the Hartford dump during a freezing rain storm.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:04 pm
Welcome Denise and Laura. How are you both doing?

Barbara

January 27, 2016 – 7:04 pm
hello to everyone

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:04 pm
Hello and welcome to all.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:05 pm
Good evening Barbara. Welcome. We are so happy to have you with us this evening. Please feel free to share with us.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:05 pm
Thanks Kathryn. Mimi’s birthday was yesterday…would be 9. Exactly 4 wks since she passed but, I’m coping. Less shock day to day, now.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:06 pm
I’m very sorry for the loss of your sweet Mimi, Laura.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:06 pm
Thank you.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:06 pm
OK. Thank You. I just loss one dog, Raven on Jan 4 and my other dog, Diamond has a multitude of ailments (hypothyroid, parathyroid, Addison, COPD, arthritis) but hoping that I can keep her comfortable for a bit longer

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:06 pm
very sorry as well.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:07 pm
Thanks so much for the condolences. So appreciated.

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:07 pm
very soory Denise

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:08 pm
Denise, deep sympathy.

Barbara

January 27, 2016 – 7:08 pm
That’s a lot to deal with Denise So sorry….

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:08 pm
I loss another dog last year on Feb 2 and got Raven on March 2. Didn’t have her long

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:08 pm
Oh my Denise so much for your precious Diamond (and you) and of course right on the heels of losing your beloved Raven. Our hearts are with you dear Denise.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:08 pm
Oh, Denise, I am so sorry. My little Bailey died on August 15 and my other dog Abby was diagnosed shortly after with renal failure. It’s difficult.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:08 pm
You are not alone.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:09 pm
thank you all. I guess my question is how to deal with the loss so soon after getting her?

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:09 pm
Hello, everyone

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:09 pm
I’m thinking of how blessed she was to be loved by you, Denise!

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:10 pm
Hi Litha.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:10 pm
Indeed when we have our beloved for such a short time it can be so very traumatic. Are you doing alot of what if’s and questioning at this time? I would imagine you feel very cheated out of time you thought you were going to have together.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:11 pm
Litha, welcome. So glad you were able to join us this evening. We certainly know this has been a rough road for you these past few weeks. How are you coping day by day?

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:11 pm
it was just reading over the chat transcript thus far. I’m so sorry for your loss Denise . I just lost my dear sweet Holly last week. It’s so difficult.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:11 pm
Yes. If I did this or that. Took her to get a second opinion

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:12 pm
Litha, I’m so sorry.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:12 pm
Read up on her condition

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:12 pm
The questioning is so normal but also so very overwhelming at times, yes?

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:12 pm
Litha, how do you deal with the loss?

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:12 pm
How are you doing, Litha?

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:13 pm
Can you guys give me some suggestions

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:14 pm
Denise, Mimi left Dec. 29, & when my mom passed, a friend advised writing a letter to her…I did so w/ Mimi & it did bring a degree of comfort.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:15 pm
Thank you Laura. And Kathryn. Ithis has got to be the worst I’ve ever felt in my entire life. It’s a tiny bit better now but sometimes I just get so overwhelmed with grief it hurts. I physically ache to pet and cuddle my girl. She had cancer we’ve been grieving for the last 6 months. But her passing still tiki us by surprise since she didn’t succumb to cancer. It was something else entirely.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:15 pm
I just started a new pet caregiver blog today and I address this very question. Coping is about allowing yourself to mourn, having support while you mourn, memorializing the life and of course self care! That’s the abridged version. I can tell you what its not about–avoiding the feelings and just staying busy as you can. That’s the myth many would like us to believe.

Barbara

January 27, 2016 – 7:16 pm
Have also heard of journaling so you can recall good memories and your journey through grief process

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 7:16 pm
Hello all, I am so sorry for the recent losses of your beloved babies. My sweet dog Pono passed on December 9. I wish I had a magic potion to help all of you. I’ve read all the pet grief books I could find but none were helpful.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:17 pm
I remember many said to focus on the good but I had/have so many “what ifs” & wishes :/ Journalling, as Barbara said! Much like my “letter”, I wanted to document the amazing times so as to never forget. Not like I could.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:17 pm
Grief can definately affect us not only emotionally but physically and spiritually as well. As painful as it is, its good to move toward the pain (with others companioning you) and allowing the tears to flow. It is then that we can move through the grief into a healing journey. You don’t have to go it alone!

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:17 pm
so sorry for your loss Kristen

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:18 pm
Good idea, Laura. I also wrote a letter me and found it helpful. I told Bailey how much I loved him and also asked his forgiveness for anything that I might have unknowingly done… I found it comforting.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:18 pm
Denise, I’m literally just going day by day. I’m letting my self feel all of the grief even though it hurts.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:18 pm
Deep condolences, Kristen.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:19 pm
So sorry for your loss, Kristen…

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:19 pm
Exactly Judy! I trust they know. It’s amazing what they understand…

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:19 pm
The journaling would be part of memorializing the life. It takes us from focusing on the loss and remembering the life and love we shared with our beloved pet.

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 7:19 pm
Thank you. I did find this wonderful blog that is beautifully written about the illness and loss of beloved dog. She has a post on there titled “10 Healing Tips for Surviving the Loss of an Extra Super Very Beloved Companion Animal.” The blog is called Alec’s Story.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:20 pm
That is exactly how I’ ve been doing it Kathryn. Being part of a support group like this also helps a lot. Having a safe place to express yourself with others who know and understand helps a great deal.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:20 pm
sorry for your loss Kristen

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:21 pm
Not everyone understands the depth of grief that we all experience. It’s a gift to have a safe place with caring and understanding people like all of you.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:21 pm
Absolutely.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:21 pm
That’s right Litha. We are your companions on your grief journey. We don’t sympathize but rather empathize because of the bond we share through our commonality of experience with our losses.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:22 pm
letter writing and blogging sound like good ideas too. I still talk to Holly all the time. She was a strawberry blonde and always had a lot to say. I hope someday when the initial stages of grief pass and I’m just sad I will hear her voice again on my heart

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:22 pm
I also found posting a memorial on the Day by Day page was helpful and healing.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:22 pm
Judy, I’m not sure I am here yet to write her a letter because I feel like to didn’t do enough to save her. Although people tell me it wasn’t my fault, I feel like it was – making the Drs listen, taking to another specialist, reading things online. I spend my time now reading about different things regarding IBD, bacteria infections, diets, etc. Saying if ….

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:23 pm
i hope you hear her voice again as well

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:23 pm
Death ends a life not a relationship so that is why we’re all still so connected to our pets after loss.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:23 pm
i feel the same way Judy. You are all so supportive. How is Abby?

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:24 pm
thank you Chris

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:24 pm
Oh, Denise. That is so hard. Are you reading on the Internet? I find it very painful to do so as there are so many conflicting opinions.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:25 pm
The what if’s, guilt and regrets can plaque us. It will take time to forgive yourself for whatever you feel you did or did not do. No one will have the magic words to give you that, it comes from within. And without a doubt, no pet harbors resentment. You did all that you could with the knowledge and means you had available.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:25 pm
Thanks for asking, Litha. Abby is having a good day today.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:26 pm
What a nice reminder that no pet harbors resentment, Kathryn. Thank you.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:26 pm
I am saving that quote.

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:27 pm
I agree, they do not.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:28 pm
Denise , I understand how you feel. My husband and I did everything we could for Holly, I mean everything…financially, physically and emotionally and we still couldn’t save her. We were expecting her to succumb for cancer eventually but she was in remission when she passed. She developed a whole new set of health problems shortly after her chemo ended that I think played a huge part of it but

Barbara

January 27, 2016 – 7:28 pm
Denise sounds like you are being really hard on yourself.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:29 pm
I like that quote too Kathryn.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:30 pm
And when the passing occurs not how we expected it can complicate our grief as well. Its like, “wait, what?” I thought it was suppose to happen this way. Now it just can’t be something else? It can be difficult to understand why something else could come along when you’ve done so well with managing the current health issue. So unfair, yes?

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:31 pm
I got cut off sorry…what could we do, not treat the cancer and she’d die from it or treat the cancer and take a chance it would be something else. So sad. The irony is that she did very well with her chemo and she was happy. 2 1/2 months later, she was gone from something else.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:32 pm
So true, Kathryn! I had to pack but stayed w/ her, when I left for 1 min. to call the vet is when she passed! I wanted her in my arms. I still pray she doesn’t think I ran out on her :'(

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:32 pm
I am so sorry Litha.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:33 pm
Definitely unfair. It makes me angry, which distracts me from the grief…but only temporarily. I am reading a book about the 5 stages of grief and finding it helpful too. The stages are fluid, not linear and all help you to cope with the intense feelings of pain and loss.

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:33 pm
so sorry Laura

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:33 pm
Thank you.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:34 pm
And Litha, how devastating.

Barbara

January 27, 2016 – 7:34 pm
Litha I know how you feel Trying to keep my Oscar comfortable as he has prostate cancer. He had pneumonia a week ago. I would have never expected it Holding his own…

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:34 pm
Thank you Denise. It sounds like you are a great pet parent. Trust me, I’m sure you did everything you could.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:36 pm
Yes, grief ebbs and flows and its not about going from one “stage” to the next. Rather its about a continual roller coaster of emotions including anger, sadness, depression, etc. and even moments of acceptance. Not linear at all which is what often worries people because they weren’t expecting to be on a coaster ride. As if each day automatically things will get better. Not usually the case. Grief bursts most likely will last a lifetime. Not to the intensity they are at now but they will soften.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:36 pm
Laura, I fell the same way. I finally felt like the new Dr. was going to make her better. I told her that I love her and that I will see her tomorrow. I left her there and she died overnight in her sleep. I guess the only saving grace was that I finally after over a month got a good night’s rest cause I had hope and that she passes in her sleep.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:37 pm
Thank you Barbara. Oscar is a lucky boy to have you. All any of us want is the very best for our babies we’d do anything for them.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:37 pm
I agree Litha. You all sound INCREDIBLY loving, caring, devoted, and committed to doing everything you can to care for and save your babies. It is so clear from the stories that you share…

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:37 pm
I just hope that she knew mommy loved her so much and that I did not leave her

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:37 pm
So sorry, Denise, the shock of it happening!

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:37 pm
I apologize. I’m feeling sorry for myself

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:37 pm
I am sure that she did know that!

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:38 pm
She clearly did, Denise. You left for such a loving and important reason too!

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 7:38 pm
I think it takes a lot of courage to grieve. You are all very brave.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:38 pm
You as well, Kristen.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:39 pm
I have to be strong for my kids but at times it hard and at least half the time others don’t understand my grief and pain

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:39 pm
Sorry for yourself? As you should. You’re in the pain of grief. Everyone in grief needs to be able to share/vent. Doing so is very brave and takes a good deal of work. Grief is the hardest work we humans will ever do.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:40 pm
denise, please don’t blame yourself. Your girl knew you loved her and knows you did the very best you could.

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 7:42 pm
Denise, the lack of understanding is the worst! No one in my life wants to hear about my grief and living alone with no other pets is also a difficult thing that others don’t understand. That is why it is so good to read the emails from this group of caring folks who do empathize and know that is it not weakness to grieve.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:43 pm
I hav ed

Barbara

January 27, 2016 – 7:43 pm
Well said Kristen

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:43 pm
well said indeed!

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:44 pm
Yes, thank you!!!!

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:44 pm
That’s just it, Kristen, a friend was surprised when I mentioned that, many still have other pets but it was just Mimi & me. W.o her, my mornings (& much of my day :/ ) is empty. That was a shock I wasn’t ready for, somehow didn’t think it through how it would be.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:45 pm
i have found that many people avoid talking about grief and loss because it makes them realize that it can happen to anybody even them at any time. Iit does take a lot bravery!

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:45 pm
Kristen, that’s it for sure! We are a network of support when society wants us to just get over it and move on. Why do they all think it’s so easy? Burying the grief is not the answer. And yet any around us assume that’s the answer. Interesting, yes?

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:45 pm
Yes, Litha!

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:46 pm
I know that it may sound funny, but I firmly believe that my sweet boy moved from physically present in my life to living inside my heart. Although I miss my cuddle buddy and the love of my life with every cell in my body, I have come to feel that he is constantly with me in the love in my heart. I pray and hope that for all of you too.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:46 pm
Very much, Kathryn.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:47 pm
That is so beautiful & comforting, Judy, thank you

Nikki & Amma

January 27, 2016 – 7:47 pm
Hello All!

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:47 pm
Welcome!

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 7:47 pm
Judy, I never thought of it that way but that is so comforting. Thank you!

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:47 pm
doesn’t sound funny at alll…sounds beautiful and awesome to me!

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:47 pm
My husband and I have no kids, I’ve have another dog at home (who I can’t tell if she’s lonely or bored without her sister) everyone knows that our dogs are our kids. When I went back to work no one asked me how I was doing or said they were sorry for my loss. Can you imagine! It was horrible.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:47 pm
We are a death avoidance society doesn’t matter if its in regards to pets or humans. Somehow many north americans think death is an option.

Nikki & Amma

January 27, 2016 – 7:48 pm
Hello All

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:48 pm
Thank You Judy. Funny at times I feel that she is around, at least spiritually

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:48 pm
i hope so too Judy!

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:48 pm
Judy…yes, yes and yes. The relationship is transformed. Its still exists but now completely in the heart.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:48 pm
How are you tonight, Nikki?

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 7:49 pm
I’m so sorry, Litha.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:49 pm
thank you Kristen,

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 7:49 pm
sorry Litha

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:49 pm
thank you Chris

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:49 pm
So sorry Litha, how unfeeling

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:50 pm
it was awful Laura.

Nikki & Amma

January 27, 2016 – 7:50 pm
We’re doing well! When I lost my Roxanne, I wrote everything I could remember about her and the times we shared in a notebook. I find it comforting now to look back and remember the good times.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:50 pm
It’s healing, Nikki, definitely!

Nikki & Amma

January 27, 2016 – 7:51 pm
Yes, funny how much we forget over the years, but the notebook brings it all back…

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:51 pm
That Iis why I’m am so happy to be a part of this group. I don’t need validation for my grief from those that don’t understand. We are all entitled to it and should be supported no matter what our loss. You guys are all so great. Thank you!

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:52 pm
I also bought a nice African Violet in memory of Mr. B. I also got a pretty box and put his tags, collar, choice toys, bow tie, etc. in it (as well as his ashes). I have the box next to his violet.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:52 pm
that is a good idea Nikki.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:52 pm
You are welcome Litha

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:52 pm
Some people can be quite thoughtless and even heartless. Often it comes from their lack of knowing how amazing a relationship with a pet can truly be. Other times it can be from their inability to know how to approach a grieving person. Either way, it stinks to have people be thoughtless, uncaring or down right heartless. So sorry Litha.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:52 pm
Worst response, someone asked me, the very next day, “Oooh! Are you gonna get a new one?!?!?!” UNbelievable :'(

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:53 pm
She wasn’t replaceable.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:53 pm
Oh dear, Laura. People are uncomfortable and say awkward and hurtful things.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:53 pm
My husband and are have been talking about making a photo story book all about Holly. The pain is too great right now, biut we do plan on,emoerialzong her in a few ways she would’ve liked.

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 7:53 pm
I wish I could journal or do a memorial but right now it’s too painful. I’ve decided that it is ok not to feel everything at once. It’s my way of self-care.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:54 pm
Give yourselves time.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:54 pm
That’s lovely, Litha!

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:55 pm
Thank you Kathryn. I read recently that mourning the death of a loved one is a skill that isn’t taught yet needs to be learned. If no one teaches it how can we learn it? That is disturbing to me.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:56 pm
When you are ready to memorialize you are all invited to post on our pet memorial page if you wish. You send us the info and we create the page for you of course at no cost. Just something to consider. I often re-read the ones I did for my girls who are the inspiration for this organization. It definately brings me comfort.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:56 pm
I know Laura. Each has their own distinct personality. People told me to get another dog when Sheppie died last February. It will help with the pain. It didn’t. It just temporarily distracted me and at times made it overwhelming to get use to another dog. I opened my arms and loved Raven but it too me 6 months to get over Sheppie. Never thought 4 months later I would be trying to get over Raven

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:56 pm
aw, Laura I’m sorry. No one would ever ask if one would get a new mother sister or daughter. People just don’t get it.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 7:57 pm
You all seem like very kind and loving people who are kindred spirits. Too bad we don’t live closer.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:57 pm
Thanks for sharing these feelings.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:58 pm
I’m sorry Denise,

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:58 pm
ii feel the same Judy

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 7:59 pm
Indeed, allowing grief which is the internal feelings we hav associated with loss and then being able to mourn needs to be taught much like a coping skill. Over the years our society in particular is teaching us to move away from the pain when that is the opposite thing we should be doing. It’s frustrating indeed. I am advocating for courses to be taught in mid-school on death and grief.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 7:59 pm
This time I am going to focus on Diamond. She needs my undivided attention until her time comes

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 7:59 pm
thank you Laura

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 7:59 pm
Exactly, Litha, it seems disrespectful & even now (just a month)I feel almost sick at the thought of another bunny in her cage. Won’t say never, but can’t think of it now.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 8:00 pm
In time, once you find your new normal, you will be able to love again. We all have too big of hearts not to love again.

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 8:01 pm
I went back and forth over adopting a new dog. I am adopting a rescue dog this weekend, who came from a high-kill shelter. I just have to go pick him up from out of state. I don’t think it’s going to help with the grief but it will help me to be less isolated. I was so used to having a companion. The isolation has been the hardest part for me.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:01 pm
Surely, Kathryn

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:02 pm
Understandable, Kristen. Thinking of you on this next step.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 8:02 pm
I had many many wonderful years with Holly and I wouldn’t trade them for the world. I would definitely rather miss her than never have known her.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 8:02 pm
Kristen, please keep us posted on your new baby. As you say, he won’t replace but he could bring hope and joy back into your life.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 8:02 pm
Kristen, what will your new dog be named?

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 8:03 pm
The rescue organization named him Glen. He’s a lhasa apso mix. I don’t know if I will keep or change his name.

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 8:03 pm
I hope you find a new best friend. He or she will not take the place of the one you just loss but will be able to give each other love and allow you two to create other memories

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 8:04 pm
Bailey was a Shih Tzu or Lhasa Apso mix! I am happy for you…

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 8:04 pm
He will surely be blessed with a loving Mom, Kristen!

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 8:04 pm
It sounds like you have so much love to give Kristen. Opening your home to an animal in need is so loving and selfless. I’m sure your baby would’ve approved.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 8:06 pm
As we close for the evening, does anyone have anything else they would like to share?

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 8:06 pm
I hope everyone have a blessed and peaceful evening. It was great to listen and share

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 8:07 pm
Kristen have fun with Glen

Chris

January 27, 2016 – 8:07 pm
I think when you are born, your heart has two choices…it can love and grow…it can dwindle and die. I think everyone here clearly chose the growth route. I don’t think my girls took pieces of my heart with them when they left…I think they added to the size of my heart and I am forever thankful for that

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 8:07 pm
Well said, Chris. I agree, Denise. Thank you and good night to all. Blessings!

Denise

January 27, 2016 – 8:07 pm
I agree Chris

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 8:08 pm
Thank you all for allowing me to grieve with you. It helps so much. Hugs to all of you.

Barbara

January 27, 2016 – 8:08 pm
Thanks to all !

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:08 pm
There’s this quote from animal lover Bernadette Peters, on getting a pet after a loss:

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:08 pm
“I remember when I lost my beagle and adopted Bosco two weeks later that everyone was stunned—and before it happened I would have never thought that I’d be ready to love another dog so fast. But the thing for me was that I had this horribly dogless house, and love to give, and out there was someone who needed me. The big thing for me was accepting that Bosco is not Elmo, and that his view of

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 8:08 pm
that’s beautiful Chris. Thank you

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:08 pm
…view of the world is very different than Elmo’s was and that I shouldn’t ask him to be anything other than who he is.” BINGO…this is how I had to explain how I could only wait a couple weeks. That and…my other dog would have wanted me to give that love to another animal in need. And Toby has been my little knight in shining armor ever since he arrived…

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:09 pm
Agree, thanks Chris.

Litha

January 27, 2016 – 8:11 pm
Hugs to all, goodnight.

Kathryn

January 27, 2016 – 8:11 pm
Thank you everyone. And you know the support doesn’t stop here. You are welcome to engage in conversation on our YahooGroup, call us on our hotline at 484-453-8210 or email us anytime. And if you live within the 5 states we currently have in-person support circles you can join us there too. We are here for you when and how you need us. Blessings to you all.

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:11 pm
Thanks for caring!

Kristen

January 27, 2016 – 8:12 pm
Thank you, everyone. Blessings and love to you.

Judy

January 27, 2016 – 8:12 pm
Hugs…

Laura

January 27, 2016 – 8:12 pm
Love & peace to each of you.

Guest_712

January 31, 2016 – 12:00 pm
I have two old dogs and I am very sad to think of losing them. Although I’ve lost them in the past it’s hard and got never get stronger from it.

Guest_712

January 31, 2016 – 12:03 pm
So it’s nice to have a support group out there….I love them so much they’re so innocent and loving. Unconditional

Guest_lobo712

January 31, 2016 – 12:07 pm
I will go by lobo he was my first baby that that taught me how animals love you no matter what unconditionally. I’ve had dogs ever since.