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Guest_895

May 27, 2015 – 5:56 pm
Welcome to our online chat. Please feel free to share your caregiving or loss story with us. You are not alone.

Guest_899

May 27, 2015 – 6:07 pm
HI – My first time here – looking forward to sharing and listening.

Guest_899

May 27, 2015 – 6:08 pm
if anyone reads this i am not sure I am doing this correctly….does this get seen somewhere? I hope I don’t miss out because I am doing this wrong.

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:09 pm
Hello and welcome. You are doing it just fine. We can read you. Would you like to share your story?

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:11 pm
By the way, you can type your name in the space above where it now reads Guest 899.

Janice

May 27, 2015 – 6:13 pm
I have a 17 year old beloved feline named Missy who was a rescue cat. I am scared like crazy that she is getting older. She has cardiomyoparhy and has had some rough bouts lately. I find it hard to sleep, eat, work…all I think about is she ok and is she safe – any ideas on how to, kind of, loosen up and not watch her every second – we all know how much cats LOVE being spied on…. smile….

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:16 pm
Janice, thank you for sharing. Wow, 17 that’s amazing. Missy is such a cute name. Anticipatory grief is definitely hard to cope with. I went through it for 5 years with 3 very sick dogs. Living in the moment can be hard no matter what the situation but then it comes to your precious furry babies it makes it even harder. Hence we always take things day by day.

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:18 pm
Hi Janice, sounds like you have your hands full…I am sorry. I do believe we have to try and take care of ourselves a bit (sneak a movie, read etc something) so that we can refresh a bit.

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:19 pm
my friend says the reason they say to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first is so that we can take better care of others…

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:19 pm
Chris, that’s so right, taking a break from the grief is one of the best suggestions for caregivers to take care of themselves especially for the grief that comes before the loss.

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:20 pm
what is cardiomyopathy? What is the treatment?

Janice

May 27, 2015 – 6:20 pm
She is a tiny little thing – she doesn’t eat much but she is maintaining at about 3.2 kilos – how did you deal with it – I know when I lost my dog it was SO hard and I was going rescue work with an underground rescue org and we worked with both dogs and cats. I from then on have always had critters with me. I do try and read sometimes about taking care of myself but it’s SO hard…smile

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:22 pm
indeed it is…and admittedly, I say that…but I also realize I didn’t do such a great job of it myself.

Janice

May 27, 2015 – 6:23 pm
Cardiomyopathy is something fairly common in cats and dogs – it is very briefly a malfunction of one of the valves going to and from the heart which can make blood build up and back up into the lungs which causes pulmonary edema – I just happened to go home the day she got sick otherwise I would have lost her. She has been a miracle as she has had other issues as well. It’s hard isn’t it ever.

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:23 pm
Yes, we usually take care of ourselves last. :o( When you are a caregiver, its usually just in your nature to put others and in this case our precious furbabies as #1 priority. During my 5 years of caregiving, I ended up showing my grief and stress physically. Tight muscles, headaches, etc. Your bodies will show it when we do not take can of ourselves.

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:24 pm
agreed…

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:25 pm
so is there any treatment for that? Or is it just constant watch for signs?

Janice

May 27, 2015 – 6:25 pm
That is very true – I also have rheumatoid arthritis which is now gone into my spine and I find it hard to slow down and rest and not sit up all night worrying and watching….even though I know that right now she is doing REALLY well, I stil find myself on edge and think about her when I am not there and think about here when I am there – I think I drive her nuts sometimes – so I will try and rel

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:26 pm
So hard Janice. Between the worry and the constant “watching” can be overwhelming. Is that how you’ve been feeling? I remember crying nearly everyday wishing that I could take away the inevitable. I kept thinking as long as I was doing my part I could stop things from getting worse.

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:27 pm
i am glad to hear she is doing well…it I fully understand the constant watch and worry

Janice

May 27, 2015 – 6:29 pm
Yes there is very successful treatment – atenolol which is a human beta blocker – the amount is done by weight. Also she is on Enacard which is a canine heart drug also used for felines She has been on these and also when she was first very sick she was in hospital and then on lasix which is a diuretic – she is now thank *** only on two drugs and also she gets pain meds 1-2 times a day as she ha

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:29 pm
right on Kathryn

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:30 pm
Oh my gosh, that’s totally how I would feel. I would rush home and not be gone too long because I couldn’t stand being away from my girls. I felt so guilty if I enjoyed myself. Even found myself being happy for a moment and then the realization of the girls illness would come back to mind.

Chris

May 27, 2015 – 6:31 pm
i definitely understand that and felt the same way as well…such a struggle.

Janice

May 27, 2015 – 6:32 pm
yes the constant worrying and watching os overwhelming…indeed that is how I feel. My biggest worry is she in any pain or discomfort…but with the pain meds on board it is better. Kathryn that is Exactly how I feel. i HOPE WE can talk again as I am now finished work and do not own a computer – thanks so much – I wish we could talk privately…is that possible Kathryn?

Janice

May 27, 2015 – 6:32 pm
i’ll email kathryn and see if this is possible.

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:33 pm
Take joy in the little things like just what you mentioned, she’s only on two drugs now. By the time our Pookie passed she was on 20 dispensations of various drugs and 2x sub q fluids per day. Whenever we got her off some some drugs it was a day to celebrate.

Kathryn

May 27, 2015 – 6:34 pm
Janice, yes…please feel free to contact us on the hotline whenever you are able.